Media personality Tony Kwalanda has disclosed the reasons behind the short duration of his relationship with content creator Joyce Maina.
In an interview with Radio47Ke, Kwalanda reminisced about his affection for Joyce but highlighted several factors that led to the end of their relationship.
“Joyce Maina, msichana roho yangu ilimpenda sana, unajua tulikutana in a very funny way, lakini ilifika wakati roho ikaniambia mpende tu so nikaamu nikafungua roho so tukadate hadi ilifika kiwango nakumbuka tulienda kutafta nyumba amabapo tutaishi kama mtu na mke wake, wazazi wake pia tulikua tumekutana walikua wanajua tuko wawili.
According to Kwalanda, a significant point of contention was their disagreement over the naming of future children.
He explained that Joyce insisted on naming their children herself, while he believed it was the man’s responsibility according to their cultural traditions.
“Lakini kuna vitu, maybe I was childish or not lakini huyo ni mimi, kuna vitu kadhaa ambavyo sisi kama mila zetu za kinyumbani zinatilia mkazo sana, lakini hao kina Joyce maybe hawakua wanatilia mkazo. Kuna siku nlkua nimeketi kwa gari tulikua basement parking tukaulizana maswali. Joyce akasema mtoto wangu wa kwanza mimi nataka nimwite hivi, wa pili, wa tatu…nikamskiza tu, nikamwambie unajua sisi kwa ki mila yetu wakabras kule Malaba, sisi wanaume ndio tunaname watoto, Joyce akasema mimi ndio carrier, yaani unanidunga mimba alafu useme wewe ndio utamname, ntamwita jina langu upende usipende, nilimuelewa kwa sababu ya kule ametoka, nikajua hapa tutakua na shida. It was one of the main reasons, nliona kama jina pekee yake italeta shida there could be another reason,”
Kwalanda also recounted that his final straw in the relationship was when Joyce informed him that he would be cooking for her once she got pregnant.
Asked why the sentiments rubbed him the wrong way, the journalist alluded that he saw the remarks as a red flag and that the remarks were unacceptable in their culture.
“si ati siezi pika lakini sisi wanaume kutoka Western ukianza kuskia mtu akianza kusema vitu atafanya mbeleni, thats a red flag, sisi hatupendi kukumbushwa.”
