Choice Gatwiri Kinoti, the Kenyan woman who recently went viral after appearing in a video with a Russian man, has sparked debate online after sharing her views on why she believes many white men prioritise personality over physical appearance when choosing partners.
Speaking in a video shared by SPM Buzz on TikTok on Thursday, March 5, 2026, Gatwiri claimed that many white men focus more on a woman’s character rather than her looks or body figure when entering relationships.
According to her, this is why people sometimes see white men married to women who may not fit what society often considers conventional beauty standards.
“They date for love, and that’s why you often see white men marry the ugliest women on earth,” she said.
She further explained that in her observation, personality tends to play a bigger role than physical attraction.
“If you have ever noticed, white men don’t go for looks or figure. They want the personality. That’s what they go for, and me too, I always go for that as well,” she added.
Cultural Differences in Dating
Gatwiri suggested that cultural differences influence her preferences when it comes to relationships. She said she often feels more attracted to men she considers exposed, respectful and romantic.
“That’s why I have never and I am not sure if I will ever date a Kenyan man, but I think it’s because I have not found my type yet,” she said.
She also stated that she generally avoids dating Black men unless they come from what she described as well-exposed and cultured backgrounds.
“I don’t want Black men culturally. Unless he is the son of a president… unless they are from a family where they are well exposed and have been brought up well and very cultured,” she claimed.
Qualities She Looks for in a Partner
Gatwiri explained that the qualities she values most in a relationship include respect, romance and shared responsibility.
According to her, she would prefer a partner who treats women well, contributes equally in the relationship and demonstrates acts of care such as cooking or being supportive.
“A man who can cook for a woman, who can respect a woman, who can be romantic and be giving, that’s the only thing I can date. Otherwise, it’s a no,” she stated.
She concluded by reiterating that she tends to prefer white men because she believes they often display the qualities she values in relationships.
