Media personality Grace Msalame has candidly opened up about the emotional journey that led to her pregnancy with twins, revealing that it happened during a deeply toxic relationship compounded by grief and heartbreak.
Speaking in an interview with Reverend Kathy Kiuna on the Woman Without Limits show, Msalame reflected on how a difficult season in her life — marked by a painful breakup and the loss of her father — clouded her judgment and left her vulnerable.
Grace shares her twin daughters with Paul Ndichu, the twin brother of media personality Janet Mbugua’s ex-husband, Eddie Ndichu.
How grief and heartbreak shaped her choices
Msalame revealed that shortly after completing a faith-based programme, she met a man whose name she had been praying about, a coincidence she initially interpreted as divine confirmation.
“A few weeks after finishing that program, the first man I met had that name. And I was like Hallelujah. The Lord has answered my prayer,” she said.
“He was tall and handsome, that’s it. You quickly learn very differently; give yourself time… and eventually we broke up.”
However, she later realised that the relationship was unhealthy, noting that everyone close to her had raised concerns — concerns she chose to ignore at the time.
“People around you are not happy; they see the red flag that you don’t. My mum saw them, my dad never supported,” she explained.
“I just became someone else; you become a totally different person. And that is a sign something is off.”
Losing her father and emotional vulnerability
Grace also opened up about the lingering pain of losing her father, Tony Msalame, who died in May 2010. She admitted she struggled for years with guilt over not having said goodbye, a burden that weighed heavily on her during the breakup.
“Here I am, horrible breakup, losing my dad, it was just one thing after another,” she said.
According to Grace, it was during this emotionally fragile period that her former partner reached out to offer condolences — a moment that would change her life forever.
“The ex reaches out… and I say this only to share that grief can be dangerous,” she said.
“How you handle grief matters. Take that pain to God… When he reached out to say sorry for the loss, that is when I became a mother.”
A message of reflection and healing
Msalame’s story serves as a powerful reflection on how unresolved grief and emotional pain can influence life-altering decisions. She encouraged others, especially people of faith, to seek healing before making major choices.
Today, the mother of three says the experience taught her invaluable lessons about self-awareness, emotional healing and trusting her inner circle — lessons she hopes will help others navigating similar struggles.
